The Truth About Cheating (ebook)

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Why are men unfaithful? Do they stray because of sexual dissatisfaction in their marriage or is cheating a sign of a deeper problem? What are the chances that your husband will cheat? Is there anything that can be done to ensure that your husband will stay faithful?

While several books have explored the feelings and experiences of women whose husbands have been unfaithful, they have generally ignored the questions of why men cheat and what a wife can do to prevent her marriage from being destroyed by infidelity. In The Truth about Cheating, the renowned family counselor M. Gary Neuman presents fascinating and provocative answers to these vital questions.

As Neuman reveals the surprising results of his extensive research with cheating husbands and faithful husbands, he challenges the conventional wisdom and offers keen insights into the real motivations of straying husbands. Among the biggest surprises Neuman discovered during his research is that sexual dissatisfaction plays a relatively minor role in the decision to cheat. Filled with dramatic and enlightening stories based on Neuman's extensive interviews with his subjects, The Truth about Cheating takes you straight to the emotional core of male infidelity.

Once you begin to understand the often unexpressed but deeply felt emotional needs that most men have in common, Neuman takes you to the next step?what to do to prevent cheating. He provides concise focus points, action steps, and exercises that will help you reduce the chances of infidelity in your marriage and create a more meaningful and intimate relationship with your husband.

You'll also find out how to tell whether your husband is cheating: how to listen for the warning bells, pick up on cheating signals, and read the signs that tell you when he's lying. You'll discover the strongest defense against cheating?connecting with your husband emotionally in ways that are meaningful to him?and learn to encourage him to do the same for you.

If you believe that your husband may be unfaithful, you're not being paranoid and it's not your fault. But you can prevent him from straying if he hasn't already done so and put a stop to it if he has. Read The Truth about Cheating and start making your marriage stronger today.

M. Gary Neuman is a licensed family counselor and rabbi, the coauthor of In Good Times and Bad, and the author of Emotional Infidelity and Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way. A frequent guest on Oprah, he has also appeared multiple times on Today, Good Morning America, The View, and National Public Radio. He and his work have been featured in People, Time, Parents, and other major publications. Neuman is the creator of Marriage Turnaround Intensive, an innovative all-day approach to couples therapy. He maintains a private practice in Miami Beach, where he lives with his wife and five children. Visit his Web site at www.mgaryneuman.com.0Acknowledgments.

PART ONE:Why and How Men Cheat.

1. This Book Will Change Your Marriage.

2. The Real Reasons Men Cheat.

QUICK ACTION PROGRAM.

Step One: Keep Tabs on His Friends and Family.

3. Warning Bells, Cheating Signals, and Lying Signs.

QUICK ACTION PROGRAM.

Step Two: Change the Cheating Signals.

QUICK ACTION PROGRAM.

Step Three: Get Involved in His Work and Play Lives.

4. Understanding the Male Mind: Connecting Emotionally.

QUICK ACTION PROGRAM.

Step Four: Practice Emotional Giving.

5. The Power of Sex.

PART TWO:How to Improve Your Marriage.

6. Insightful Change: The Inner Voice Recognition Formula.

QUICK ACTION PROGRAM.

Step Five: Emotional Giving.

QUICK ACTION PROGRAM.

Step Six: Sex.

7. Lessons from Successful Marriages.

8. Caring for Yourself.

9. Responding to Your Husband?s Love.

QUICK ACTION PROGRAM.

Step Seven: Finding the Time to Love.

Epilogue: What We've Learned about What You Can Do.

Appendix A: Will Therapy Help?

Appendix B: Healing after an Affair.

Recommended Reading.

Index.